I am like rubber.

So Jason called me yesterday afternoon. He’s in a seriously secret place and we only get to communicate at night when he’s done with all his classes/homework/gun cleaning/pizza parties. We visited for a second, and he says, “So how are you doing, really? Are you okay?”

I took a second for a little self evaluation, and I realized something rather frightening. I’m doing great. Sure, last week I was clinically depressed, and sure I laid in my bed until noon on Saturday eating Captain Crunch and reading magazines, but that was then. Apparently, I am a highly resilient creature. I was surprised at my own very honest response.

“You know what? I’m great. The kids are great, the house is great, we’re actually doing just fine.” And I meant it.

Who knew that I could get over him so fast? Who knew that I could be such a rocking single parent who has managed for the past two nights to NOT scream like a crazy woman at my kids (much), even when they’re awake after 7:30 pm.

Of course, maybe part of this is the fact that my kids will be spending the upcoming weekend with their grandparents, and I know on a very important level that I will have some time to regroup and drink up some necessary alone time in a completely kid-free zone. And let me tell you, I don’t think I’ve ever looked forward to a weekend so much in my entire life, honeymoon included (okay, it’s a toss up).

I’m just thankful for the friends and family members who haven’t forgotten us, it’s times like these when you can really see who gives a crap about you. Honestly, after that last three day weekend alone, in the house, with three kids for 72 hours, I almost lost it. Thank goodness for relatively expensive babysitters.


  1. Isn’t it amazing how sometimes the anticipation of the event is even worse (in the case of single-momming it) or better (kid-free weekend) than the reality? I hope your Jason-free weeks are better than you feared, and the kidless weekend better than you hoped. XO

  2. LOL that is soo me. The hubs is out of town literally 90% of the time all the time. Some weeks and weekends I’m like “oh me? I’m fine. No probs.” Next day, I’m all out psycho hose beast, and I’ve called my husband and left a very disturbing voicemail on his phone. I’m good for inconsistency.

  3. Superman does dog trainings and guys’ nights every Wednesday, so I have at least one day a week completely on my own. It’s helped prepare for the few times he’s gone out of town. A few months ago he went to Ireland (!) for a week on business and we managed just fine. Kind of sad, kind of reassuring.

  4. Too bad your kid free weekend doesn’t include me. That’s the only thing that could make it better.

  5. You are funny and I like reading you

  6. This depresses me. I am so NOT handling things as well as you are, but I’m going to just chalk that up to being pregnant and therefore insane. I’m hoping things start looking better, I’m trying to change my attitude, but man, its hard! Thanks for the inspiration, hoping to be more like you! 🙂

  7. You don’t even know how depressed I got when I realized we weren’t going to hang!! We will soon though, so don’t fret.
    ANYHOOO my friend Suzie and I are starting a movie club, sort of like a book club.. but without all that ridiculous reading. I’ve posted it on the blog for more info.
    Just remember you are fabulous and have a great pair of legs!!

  8. Annie! You made my day. I’m glad I’m not the only one who screams like a crazy woman if the kids are awake and acting silly after I put them to bed. Wednesdays are the bane of my life. All day as a single parent sucks. Oh wait, that is a description of my weekends too and Tuesday and….wow. My husband works too much,

  9. I’m glad you are doing well. I know how hard it can get when your hubby is gone. When I was married to my ex, I was also married to the Air Force for 22 years. He was gone days, weeks, months, and sometimes years at a time. The first 3 years of our marriage he was gone about 9 mos out of each of those years. Its tough but it made me a strong, independent woman who does not fear being alone and am capable of handling just about any situation. I really hope you enjoy your kid-free weekend. As mothers we really need that once in a while. Thank goodness for friends and family that are there supporting you. Have a good one!

  10. I got to read this after the news about your SIL coming to your rescue so it’s even THAT much better. I’m so glad you’re going to get some time for you. Keep on keepin’ on! And if not, benadryl is AWESOME! (So just kidding, btw.)

  11. Been there, done that, bought the tee shirt. Somedays life is just better than others. I am used to married life apart, but it it no fun sometimes. At times I do great on my own, at others I send crazy phone messages begging for help. You are a fab mummy sweetie. Time off is so necessary for sanity though.