just don’t tell

Well, now that this karate saga is finally closed, I am happy to report that Rex has started in a new class called Motion Evolution at the Bravo! academy here in Layton. It’s climbing and tumbling and fun, and the goal is to help children build self-esteem through movement. It’s like the class was specifically designed with Rex in mind.

When I started him in the class two weeks ago, I made a quick decision to NOT tell his teacher about his anxiety. In hindsight, I think talking to the Sensei about him ahead of time made her a little prejudiced towards him. Prejudiced might not be the right word. Maybe it just tainted the water, you know?

So this time when I introduced him to his teacher, I decided at the last minute to let him have a go and see how he did before burdening her with that kind of information. What’s the worst that could happen, he wigged out and I had to ‘splain myself?

I don’t know if it was the weather or the teacher or what, but the kid totally rocked his new class. He listened, he waited his turn, and he absolutely loved it. There’s no doubt that karate is too rigid for him right now, and seeing him in an environment where the teacher encourages them to have a great time has brought me so much peace.

I guess what I’m saying here is that there’s nothing wrong with switching gears. Sure, we don’t want our children to feel like a failure by pulling them out of something, but we also don’t want them stuck in a program that doesn’t feel right.

In the future, we’re starting every  new venture with a two month reevaluation date for our kids. We’re telling them right from go, at eight weeks, if it isn’t a good fit, we’ll try something else.

And I don’t think I’ll mention Rex’s problems until they need to be talked about. He’s doing better every day, and I don’t want him to think that this is something he can’t overcome on his own with practice and maturity. I think the best thing I can do for him right now is have confidence in him. That’s exactly what I’m going to do.



  1. Way to go!! I think it sounds like you made the perfect decision for him. He is a pretty lucky boy to have you for his mom!

  2. I am thrilled. Sounds like he’s found a new place to thrive in.

  3. So glad you found something that is a better fit for him, Annie! What a relief. Yay!

  4. So glad to hear you’ve found a good place!

  5. Hip, Hip, Ho-ray! I’m so excited for Rex & you!

  6. so awesome! way to go Rex!

    You’re a good Mommy!

  7. YAY!

  8. Love love LOVE the two month “fitting” period. Brilliant. I’m so using that.

  9. Hi it’s Nicole from Honey Bump! Call me I didn’t get any of your contact info 🙂
    801-444-0900. Sorry to leave here, I don’t know where else to go??? Not good with the blogging stuff yet.

  10. Yay! And I’m all for switching gears. One of my favorite phrases is “whatever works!”

  11. Amber Henderson says:

    My hubby struggles with an anxiety disorder…he has had to struggle to overcome it and fit in all of his life….I love my in-laws but I wish daily that they had been more of what you are….so patient and looking for the best in your son and for your son. He is lucky to have you as his mom!

  12. I’m happy that Rex has found a place where he can be comfortable… parenting is hard, isn’t it? This was the right thing though. You did good, Mamma!