Gossip, ooohh….

I thought a lot about this month’s Top of Utah Voices column before writing it, and to be honest, you might hate it. But I couldn’t help it, it was something that needed to be said. If for no one else, then for myself.

Click here to read today’s TOUV column.


  1. Does this mean I have to stop saying amazingly nice things about you behind your back?

    Love the new look!

  2. That’s a good one. And a tough one. And a thought-provoking one. All wrapped into a great package. Well done, girl. And now I’ll be watching my mouth more often.

  3. That was brilliant. I especially liked the Dr. Laura comment.

  4. Dave read your article to me last night and we both agreed with you. And that we have some improving to do.

  5. Great words! Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us.

    And your Blog change is cute!!
    Thanks again!

  6. I’ve been thinking about this recently and have made it one of my goals not to say negative (or anything that could be non-postive) about others. I realize I can get irritated so easily with people around me which is bad in and of itself—but then I blow the problem up by talking about it with others later. If I could just swallow my frustration I could at least solve a small part of the problem.

  7. thanks annie. good read and advice 🙂

  8. It’s all a journey and boy am I grateful for moms like ours who are such good examples and I can see us girls turning into the kind of women we want to be. Love the article 🙂

  9. That was a really great post! I love that last line “If you can’t say anything nice, talk to God. It’s really His problem anyway.” Or even, “If you’ve got a problem, talk to God …” would work. And I shall apply it.

    My husband is super good at always seeing the good in people … maybe it’s easier for guys … maybe I’m a jerk.

    Great post! Thank you!

  10. I loved this article Annie. Loved it. Because I needed to hear it. I’ve never considered myself a gossip, and yet somehow, over the past couple years, I’ve become a “venter” due to some less-than-stellar behavior in my extended family. I need to shut my mouth and let people self-destruct of their own will and choice without turning the telling and rehashing of it all into a side show. I promise I’ll do better at this. (Pretend you have some kind of stewardship over me or something so that I’ll feel accountable.) 🙂 Great thoughts.

  11. A wise man I know once told me that he’d rather catch his kids smoking out back behind the barn than hear them speak poorly of another person. This shocked me–a lot. And then after a while, it made a lot of sense to me. My father always says, “Be careful when handling someone’s good name.” I’m not always great at this but I’ll certainly try to do better. Thanks, Annie.

  12. I also love the new background. (But I started saying “the new black…” I don’t know what that means.)

  13. I couldn’t agree with your column, more. Great writing.

  14. Excellent topic. Excellent post. Gossip can and does cause so much damage and so much pain.

  15. Hey, I like your new blog look. You. Are. Awesome. Good article about gossip. It really can be the most hurtful thing. I had a really hard time these last 7 months with my “friends?” people who have known me for 25 years (some ward members) gossip about my decision to leave marriage #2 and move back to Canada. Oh boy, I am still trying to recover from all of that.
    Some people think they know everything about you…when they Know nothing about you.
    I like your rule: If you can’t say anything nice, tell God (or however that went)

    and p.s. I didn’t know there was a tv show called Studio 5. I would LOVE to see you on tv. So did you settle for the tatoo nylon look, glitter nails, big dangly earrings, and I hope a very low cut top (tee,hee)

  16. I really loved this article, Annie. I think every single person needs to read and me reminded of this lesson. I know I needed to hear it. I can honestly say that for the most part (like your Dad) I do really just try to find the good in someone, but every once in a while I know I have joined in the gossip or have said some mean things behind someones back. And its just not right. It’s not what God wants us to do. Its not what I want my children to do. I will definately be working on improving. Thanks again!

  17. Loved it, especially thought provoking. I know it is something I have to work on. Last year one of my children told me they thought I gosspiped all the time, which really shocked me. It is something I am aware of and have tried not to do. Question? When does a discussion with a friend count as gossip? Maybe my children and I see things differently, or maybe I am terrible. Whichever way it looks awful and I think now will become a goal to work on more.

  18. Your such a talented writer! Love the message!

  19. Annie,
    You always make me either smile, think or chuckle and this time you did all. It is very nicely wrote and so true.

  20. Annie–
    Loved this article. Mind if I use some of it in a lesson to young women this weekend? My assignment is to “have the courage not to judge each other” and this message nailed what I have been thinking about with this topic! Well done.

    Keep it up…BTW, heard our Micheal Buble is engaged. *sigh* Unless it is…you?!

  21. Great article. Loved it. Will re-read it everyday until I can stop my addition. Loved your take. Love you.

  22. This is one of your best!

    I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately and I really need to improve on this. Your last line sealed the deal for me… and it’s SO true!

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    Gossip, ooohh….